Just the other day…
I posted a link to my blog avdheshtondak.com with a sentence in “Khadi Boli” on a YouTube channel:
“भाई, पर्सनैलटी डवलप करणी है के? तो टेम क्यूँ खो रा, आजा मेरी वेबसाइट पै… AvdheshTondak.com.”
Within minutes, I got a reply from the channel owner. He suggested If I wanted to promote my website, I should be using “decent” language. He further added that using such indecent language will give a bad name to my personality and shall spoil the goodwill.
Khadi Boli is An Indecent Language?
That gentleman’s not alone in taking Khadi Boli for an indecent language. In fact, many Khadi Boli native speakers (a majority of the college-going young boys and girls) consider it obscene, rowdy and uncivilised. They feel ashamed that they belong to a Khadi Boli speaking region.
These students try hard to improve spoken English. They even write comments in broken English on social networking sites, speak in broken English in interviews, social gatherings, and group discussions, etc.
You know why?
Because they’ve been conditioned to believe that “decent” means English.
I don’t know who did it or why and when it happened, but let me ask you this:
How come English is a decent language, and Khadi Boli is not?
You see, decency has nothing to do with a language. In reality, it’s the kind of words you use that makes you sound decent or indecent. Consider this for a moment: Isn’t calling someone “Motherfucker” in English as rude and shocking as calling him “मादरचोद” in Khadi Boli?
See the point?
And here’s the irony:
Punjabis can speak Punjabi, Biharis can freely talk in Bihari, Bengalis are free to speak Bangla, that’s OK. And not just OK, but…cool.
But as soon as I speak in Khadi Boli, I become “Indecent?” I mean, really?
The BIG MAMMA of Standard Hindi and Urdu
It’s “Khadi Boli.”
Yes, the Hindi people speak today is the child of Khadi Boli. Khadi Boli is the “Gangotri” from which our national language, Hindi has originated. And not only that, Urdu, whom some people proudly consider an “imported” language, has also originated from Khadi Boli. How about that?
Native Khadi Boli Speakers Are the Real Culprits
But I don’t blame that gentleman.
The blame is on us. And by “us,” I mean the people from Meerut, Muzaffarnagar, Saharanpur, Baraut, Baghpat, Shamli, Ghaziabad and other Khadi Boli speaking regions. We disown our language which gives people a chance label Khadi Boli indecent.
लोग-बाग अन्ग्रेज्जि मैं Motherfucker, Shit, Crap, Bitch, Fuck बोल्लैं तो वो तो उनका स्टाइल, अर तम अपणी खड़ी बोल्ली मैं “बाहण का लवड़ा” कह दो तो तम हो ग्ये indecent। के गजब का logic है भाई थारा भी।
And it’s happening because you (the native speaker of Khadi Boli) don’t own it.
You don’t speak Khadi Boli even when you have the opportunity because you fear people will take you for a “Ganvaar.” But aren’t you a Ganvaar? Of course, you are. And by the way, what’s wrong with being a Ganvaar?
The word “Ganvaar” refers to a person belonging to a village. A Ganvaar may not have a refined or sophisticated style of articulating himself, but that doesn’t make him stupid. Well, I am a Ganvaar because I was born in a village named Yahiyapur in Muzaffarnagar and I am not ashamed of being called one.
Now, I am not suggesting that you should speak in Khadi Boli even when the job interview requires you to talk in English. No. That’s not what I mean. I am encouraging you to own and take pride in your roots, upon which the tree of your life shall grow and flourish.
If someone thinks Khadi Boli is indecent, it’s their problem, not yours.
As a native Khadi Boli speaker, I speak the way I am supposed to. It’s my language, and I fucking own it.