Why do I attract losers?
I should have asked this question a long time ago, but I didn’t because I assumed it was just a coincidence. I thought things would improve with time. They never did.
I tried self-hypnosis, affirmations, and also subliminal recordings. But the losers didn’t go away. Still, I didn’t lose hope. Things got worse but I endured, thinking that it was just a matter of time.
But this morning, something radical happened, and my whole world came crashing down around me.
Today I realized that attracting losers and jerks into my life was neither a coincidence nor it was a matter of “luck.” In fact, my attracting losers had nothing to do with the “losers.”
And the same goes for you if you too, like me, attract losers into your life.
Why Do You Attract Losers aka Miserable People?
Are you cursed? (for something you did in your past life?)
Were you born under the wrong stars?
Or are you not doing enough?
None of the above.
The reality is that you have been doing everything you can.
Repeating the affirmations first thing in the morning is a ritual for you. Positive, uplifting books and materials are scattered everywhere in your room. You “raise” your vibrations every single day by sitting in meditation.
You do notice a little bit of progress in the starting. But then, within a few weeks or months, things get back to where they were when you started. You again find yourself surrounded by losers, losers, and more losers.
Fuck!
Back to the Revelation Dawned on Me this Morning
I have been feeling sick because of a little cold since last night. I had a runny nose along with a mild fever, and yes, a kind of depression and desperation was all over me for having so many motherfucking losers in my life.
So, I sat with my eyes closed and took an inventory of the people in my life. And boy, was I shocked to notice the cold hard truth that had always been there all these years, right in front of my eyes. 😯
Most of the people surrounding me aka “the common man” were big-time losers: people with little or no financial education, no sense of direction, and no major good happening in their lives. In other words, they were fucked. (And so was I).
During those moments of dire frustration, I asked myself, “How did I attract such jerks into my life?”
A little voice popped into my head and said:
“Because you are a jerk yourself.”
“What? You Think I am a Jerk?”
“Yes, you do attract losers and miserable people into your life because you yourself feel like one. Remember: you don’t get in life what you desire but who you are. If you feel like a loser, you’ll attract losers only.”
“So, what do I need to do?” I asked that little voice.
“Acknowledge that you are a loser. Accept yourself.”
Really? *Gulp*
Alright. *Sigh*
I closed my eyes and focused inward—trying to find out how did I feel. Lo and behold, there I was. Feeling all beaten up. Like a big-time scum who lost all his zeal for life. It was painful. Very.
I stayed with the feeling of being a loser (in fact, I became friends with it). And after about 15 minutes, I felt relieved, as if a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders.
Don’t I feel like a jerk anymore? Well, I still do but the intensity has decreased a bit.
Now, I have the key. I need to lovingly stay with “feeling like a loser” for 15 minutes each day until it resolves.
If You Attract Losers, Miserable, and Unethical Scum, Remember:
Blaming them will not solve the issue. So, don’t blame anybody, not even yourself.
Set a 15-minute timer on your mobile phone. Sit in a dark and quiet room with your eyes closed. Look inside.
How do you feel?
Do you feel like a coward? A failure? A loser?
However you feel, be ONE with that feeling, lovingly.
First, fill your heart with love, and then BECOME that feeling. Be friends with it. Stay with it.
Feeling like a coward? Become COWARDICE.
Feeling like a failure? Become FAILURE.
And if you’re feeling like a loser, become LOSER.
Do this exercise for 15 minutes each day (until you feel free).