Taking advantage of someone’s kindness.
And admiring people’s help and generosity.
They are two different things.
And it’s important to know the difference between the two.
You see, help, generosity, and support are always available. People are eager to help if only their kindness is valued and admired. Nobody wants to be taken advantage of because that is dehumanizing.
So, how will you make sure that you’re not taking advantage of somebody’s kindness, huh?
Don’t expect them to “spoon-feed” you. In other words, don’t expect them to do your work. Instead, feel grateful that somebody is willing to spare time to guide and support you. Listen to what they have to say, and then put in effort to turn your dream into reality.
Listen: As soon as people sense that you are “exploiting” their kindness, they’re more likely to back off (like I did).
What makes me say so?
Well, you see, I know it can be difficult at times to find somebody who believes in you and supports you in achieving your goals. And therefore, I try to help people as much as I possibly can.
But you know, sometimes, your good intentions act “woo-woo.” Like they did for me some months ago, and I have had a strange experience.
An aspiring female voice artist contacted me via phone and requested I mentor her. Well, I did. In fact, I went a little overboard to guide her. I even offered her a free consultation out of my busy schedule and also revealed some industry secrets to get her started.
But her attitude was something I couldn’t understand. She wanted me to do most of the work, which of course, I found unfair. And so, I stopped picking up her calls. (Well, she left me no choice.)
So, what about you?
Do you realize that the person helping you is doing so out of generosity, and taking it for granted is surely not the right thing?